A Mountaintop Elopement in Kauai, Hawai’i
Why did you decide to elope?
The story of how we found each other is not traditional. We grew up as best friends in a very conservative, religious community where we fell in love. We spent countless days and weekends adventuring outdoors and this is where we discovered our deeper connection with each other. We wanted our wedding to be in a place where we could feel this connection and be ourselves. That is why we chose to elope on the mountaintops of Kauai. It allowed us to have a wedding that was truly us: outdoorsy, intimate, drama-free, and an epic adventure.
Did you have a traditional proposal? Tell us about it!
I (Lindsey) was the hold out on getting married. I wasn't sure marriage was in the books for me. A committed, lifetime relationship seemed fine. So we always knew I'd be the one to propose. But it came as a shock to Carolyn when I finally popped the question. We were camping in the Florida Keys, watching the sunrise over the water when I pulled out a ring and asked Carolyn to have coffee on the beach with me for the rest of our lives. After asking me, “Are you serious?” fifteen times, she agreed to be my partner for life. (Carolyn was wearing socks and Teva sandals during the proposal).
Did you get any push back from loved ones about your elopement?
Generally, no, we didn't get push back. We made it clear from day one that our plan was an adventure elopement, and our family and friends were fine with it. Those who knew us well knew it was right up our alley.
How did you decide when/where to elope?
It had to be in nature, and it needed to be an epic location. The challenge was agreeing on what location fit the bill for both of us. I love the mountains. Carolyn loves the beach. We initially considered getting married overseas. But we quickly realized the limits on where we could do that as an LGBTQ couple given other countries' marriage laws. So we found an epic location right here in the U.S. with mountains, beaches, and an LGBTQ-friendly community: Kauai.
Did you write your own vows?
Yes. It made them so much more meaningful and personal. Funny enough, our vows had common words and themes in them, even though we didn't see them ahead of time or compare notes.
What was the best part of your elopement?
The decision to do it as an adventure elopement. We hiked a few miles on an isolated trail to our wedding spot. The adventure of the day is something we will never forget. It made it more than just a wedding. We got to experience an awesome hike, killer views, laughter with our two best friends and photographers on the trail, and most of all a wedding ceremony that was truly ours. It was our journey to a corner of the earth where we could celebrate our love for one another and choose each other as our partners in life.
Lindsey is the one in the blue dress and blond hair. Carolyn is the one in the suit and brown hair.