New York State Of Mind
How did you meet?
David and I were introduced by a friend in 1991 on the day after Thanksgiving.
Tell us about the proposal!
We decided that we'd get married as soon as marriage equality came to either New York or Maine, where we have homes. The summer after both states gained marriage equality, on my birthday in front of my entire family, David gave me a new watch with a little note inside that read "The time has come. Let's get married."
We chose an intimate venue in Manhattan that would accommodate only 60 guests for dinner. Our main objective was that our wedding felt like the best dinner party we'd ever thrown, where there was great food, good wine and lots of smart conversation. That seemed most like us and something that all of our friends and family would recognize and love. The best advice we received was to not force everyone to stay in their seats and not let the scripted portions of the evening go on too long. We kept the ceremony short and provided lots of opportunities for mingling (and dancing!). No one wanted the evening to end.
Do you have a favorite memory?
We had a ring warming ceremony, which gave every guest a chance to hold our rings and make a silent wish or prayer before we exchanged them. Several couples held each others' hands while they were holding our rings. Paula West sang Adele's version of Bob Dylan's "Make You Feel My Love." That was one of the most powerful emotions we've ever experienced ... and everyone was in tears.